"If you can't be pretty, you might as well cause trouble" – Florence King
Posted in Family, Joel Dyke, Loss & Grief & A Hole In My Soul on May 6th, 2016
The pop culture vision of senile dementia is the doddering eccentric, who calls her grandkids by the wrong name, makes non-sequitur commentary whenever it’s devastatingly funny to do so, and genially bungles her way through the “golden years.” The reality is that dementia sneaks up on a person and can turn a person who was […]
Posted in Joel Dyke, Loss & Grief & A Hole In My Soul on Jan 2nd, 2016
When I look at pictures of Joel and see his trademark big grin shining back at me, the merriment in his eye – all evidence of his legendary bonhomie, I can’t help but be minded of John Crowe Ransom’s “Bells for John Whiteside’s Daughter.†That poem is especially poignant as it is a memorial for […]
Posted in Joel Dyke, Loss & Grief & A Hole In My Soul, Solo Parenting on Dec 17th, 2015
The one year anniversary of Joel’s death is closing in upon me, and I am frankly starting to panic. It feels like it’s happening too fast, like an avalanche. I feel like a cartoon mouse trying to dig in its heels and stop a speeding train. It’s irrational and foolish; it’s a feeling, but I’m […]